Teaching a toddler about the difference between boys and girls
Posted 14 July 2008 - 10:33 PM
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Posted 15 July 2008 - 06:31 AM
Posted 15 July 2008 - 06:37 AM
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problems can be fixed, issues you just deal with
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Posted 15 July 2008 - 07:18 AM
Posted 15 July 2008 - 07:23 AM
Parents can begin teaching children to have proper attitudes toward their bodies when children are very young. Talking to children frankly but reverently and using the correct names for the parts and functions of their bodies will help them grow up without unnecessary embarrassment about their bodies.
Children are naturally curious. They want to know how their bodies work. They want to know where babies come from. If parents answer all such questions immediately and clearly so children can understand, children will continue to take their questions to their parents. However, if parents answer questions so that children feel embarrassed, rejected, or dissatisfied, they will probably go to someone else with their questions and perhaps get incorrect ideas and improper attitudes.
It is not wise or necessary, however, to tell children everything at once. Parents need only give them the information they have asked for and can understand. While answering these questions, parents can teach children the importance of respecting their bodies and the bodies of others. Parents should teach children to dress modestly. They should correct the false ideas and vulgar language that children learn from others.
By the time children reach maturity, parents should have frankly discussed procreation with them. Children should understand that these powers are good and were given to us by the Lord. He expects us to use them within the bounds he has given us.
Little children come to earth pure and innocent from Heavenly Father. As parents pray for guidance, the Lord will inspire them to teach children at the right time and in the right way.
And maybe have a seat by the Eastern wall.
And I'd discuss the holy books with the learned men, several hours every day.
That would be the sweetest thing of all.
If I were a rich man...
Posted 15 July 2008 - 07:37 AM
I was wondering if anyone had any tips or good stories about how they explained the differences between boys and girls to young children. I ask because I have a three year old who is obsessed with his penis. He is constantly asking if I have a penis. The other day he tried to see if his grandma had a penis (she took him to the restroom at dinner). He also is obsessed with breasts. He comments on my breasts and likes to pat them. It's quite funny, but I have to try not to laugh because then he keeps doing it. I have a five year old, but he never had this fascination. I did tell him that he can't touch my breasts or anyone else's (he was patting his grandma's ta-tas in Walmart a few days back). I explained that it's similar to someone touching his penis which he sort of understands is a big no no. Anyhow, I'm a bit lost for words, especially when it comes to explaining the female anatomy.
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Posted 15 July 2008 - 07:39 AM
Posted 17 July 2008 - 09:37 PM
I hate to be the alarmist, so let me start with this: most of the time, this kind of behavior is normal in a child that age.
Keep your eye on it though. A fascination with sex organs can sometimes be an indication that someone is abusing the child. If this is new behavior, I wouldn't jump to that conclusion, but if you explain things to him and he continues to have the fascination, you might want to consider the possibility. On the other hand, if you give him the explanation and the behavior stops, you've got nothing to worry about.
It is important that you stress that it is inappropriate for anyone to touch another person's private parts. You should tell him also that if anyone touches his, he should tell you right away.
We've had the talk about touching multiple times with both my boys. My daughter is only 18 months. I'm not worried about abuse since my son has little interaction with anyone but immediate family. Plus, I'm always around him when he is around others. Thanks for the concern though. It's too bad that we have to be reminded of the signs of sex abuse.
Posted 18 July 2008 - 10:26 AM
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