Anyone else with autism...
Posted 21 September 2008 - 04:40 PM
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Posted 28 September 2008 - 03:40 PM
unless you were non verbal and stimmed a lot, you were not autistic. In my world, if you were
shy and had social troubles, you were out of luck. Targets for bullies and all sorts of abuses, just
like today, but not much help out there. Who am I kidding, not too much has changed, but at least some are getting the help and support they need, especially from parents.
I have suspected that have it for several years now. I have some of the "symptoms". Super acute hearing,difficulty in having relationships, obsessions of specific studies or subjects, taking things too literally, having meltdowns when under too much pressure, and not showing emotion at proper times.
I know there is a tie in with OCD, ADD, ADHD, as well as Tourettes, specifically, many times one can have more than one "disorder" and I use that term loosely. Honestly, I have taken many online tests that state that I most likely have Aspergers. All I know is that I have never actually been on a real date
that I can think of, and that I am much better off when I am by myself. Large crowds of people seriously stress me out. So, formally diagnosed, no, but the tests say yes, most definitely.
Posted 16 November 2008 - 12:22 AM
When I was on my mission though, there was a married couple (and they seemed to be happy) in one ward where both of them seemed like they had asperger's.
So, I suppose it may depend on the person.
Also, if you're shy and have or have had social problems, that doesn't necessarily mean you're autistic. I don't have autism, but in my younger years I had big social problems. My girlfriend also can be very shy at times, but she doesn't have it either. So yeah, shyness =/= autism.
Edited by desert_fox, 16 November 2008 - 12:26 AM.
Posted 16 November 2008 - 06:14 AM
She's been able to work and leave home, though she's been back home a few times, when things have gone wrong...but she picks herself back up and tries again. She is more than her condition and does not label herself with it. She has her struggles, but does ok. I know the Lord loves her and is with her, as long as she turns to him, she will be guided.
Good luck with dating.
Posted 16 November 2008 - 07:22 AM
It works because whenever she uses the word no...he listens. No to her eating prawns (cause they make her throw up) ...no to playing a guitar 24 hours a day for 7 days...stuff like that. She only uses it when she's pushed to the limits....why it drives her nutty he doesn't know. It's kind of cute...he goes she said no...looks sad about it...doesn't say why...he doesn't really understand the why.
Throwing up when you eat prawns cause you don't like the taste of them is seen as illogical....just try one he says LOL. The smell makes her nauseous and you can see that on her face but she's hiding it so that everyone else at the dinner can enjoy their prawns. No one at the dinner wants to see her throw up...we're all looking nervous when he peels a prawn and offers it to her and wish he'd stop insisting. Finally the arms get folded and the no word gets uttered. He looks unhappy...peeling prawns for girls is a romantic gesture ...I'm not sure what he thinks was going to happen...she would eat a prawn and go, fantastic, my aversion to prawns has been cured forever or something like that. He doesn't see stuff. He loves her...and accepting no...though he doesn't understand it...is what he does.
So yeah. They're a cute couple.
He's forty. She's thirty. I don't think he dated much. Surprised everyone when he came home from an overseas trip with the story of how he met a very nice girl who was coming to visit him. They married 3months later. It would all seem a bit quick if you didn't see them together...they're just great for each other. Love happens. He seems pretty happy, but I don't think he planned on it happening. It just did.
I am prone to mild aspy tendencies at times.
Edited by WANDERER, 16 November 2008 - 07:38 AM.
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Posted 30 November 2008 - 12:35 PM
As for dating, well for quite some time I had no interest in dating or marriage - it was hard enough to understand myself and my friends, let alone the opposite sex!!! But eventually I began to work on my social issues, and while they're by no means resolved, I have made significant progress, especially in the last six months. I began to have an interest in dating about a year ago, but have always been too nervous and afraid to act on it.
Then he came around. He is very attractive and everything I have ever wanted in a man. True to my aspie tendencies I have not asked him out yet, though I have talked to him quite a bit and tried to make it obvious that I was interested in him. Each Sunday I go to church hoping that this will be the week that I have the courage to make a move.
So in short, for me dating has been quite similar to my other social endeavors - nerve wracking, hard as heck, and as yet unproductive. I have hope though - some day I would like to get married and have children...we'll just have to see how it pans out.
Come and see the violence inherent in the system! Help help! I'm bein' repressed!
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Posted 22 July 2009 - 11:07 PM
Maybe your patriarchal blessing might have some pointers. Mine gave me a couple spiritual qualities to look for in an eternal partner, and some spiritual qualities I need to develop. Give dating your best shot, and pray for support and guidance. You will be judged by your efforts on trying to follow the commandments, and you'll be awarded eventually.
Posted 18 November 2009 - 06:03 PM
Posted 19 November 2009 - 07:48 AM
For those who know little about the condition, want to know more but don't want to read ridiculously long articles on the subject, just watch the clips of doc martin on youtube. It's a UK TV comedy, and while Doc Martin does not officially have aspergers (as far as I know) most of his traits are that of someone with aspergers - he seems to resemble myself with his words and actions, or so I'm told.
Here is an example of a few clips: YouTube - Doc Martin Series 3 Best Bits #1-5, though only the first clip really resembles what I'm referring to.
Edited by Mahone, 19 November 2009 - 08:30 AM.
Posted 04 January 2010 - 11:41 PM
Keep your head up, i've seen many autistic people be successful in dating endeavors. You have nothing to be nervous about, it's not like there is something wrong with you. You are just different is all. There are tons of people who can appreciate you for the person you are, and even love your autistic traits. I personally think Aspie boys are endearing and adorable, there is something really sweet about the awkwardness they tend to exude. I know i'm not the only one who feels that way either.
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