Silver Girl Posted October 24, 2008 Report Share Posted October 24, 2008 I just wanted to add a quick note... I am not sure that anyone will agree with me, but here is my take on forgiving others... I am always uncomfortable with the old saying "Forgive and Forget"... In all cases we must learn to FORGIVE, but in some cases we do not have to FORGET... Here is what I mean... Years ago I was sexually assaulted... It was horrible and brutal, and I do not share my story with most people... It has taken therapy and many years of hard work to forgive my assailant... And, I have forgiven him... I no longer wish him ill will... I no longer see a fatal accident on TV and wonder why it wasn't him... I no longer pray for God to strike him dead with a random bolt of lightening... I am over that... But... I do not believe for one second God expects me to forget what he did... I know it would be unsafe and unhealthy for me, both physically and emotionally, to ever see him again... Or even hear his voice... I will never in my life time, allow myself to see him, hear from him, or be in a room with him... That is the boundary I have to set in order to live and function as a survivor... I have had several people tell me over the years that I have not truly forgiven him, because I refuse to speak to him... They feel that I should give him a call, and talk to him... To let him know that all is forgiven... I cannot do that... But, in my heart, between me and my Father, I know what is in my heart... And I have forgiven... I am, all these years later, finally at peace.... Just my .02, Silver Girl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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