Posted 24 August 2009 - 10:28 PM
My situation is kind of complicated (aren't they all?), but I was hoping some of you could help me know what to expect...
My first wife and I were married 14+ yrs and had 4 kids. She left and we divorced last year. There was misconduct on her part. She alleges abuse by me, but that is false. She married and divorced one guy within 9 weeks and then married husband #3 6 weeks after divorcing husband #2. I have also remarried since the divorce.
My wife was sealed to her first husband who passed away a few years ago and they had no kids. Husband #3 was sealed to his wife with 4 kids of their own.
I met with my bishop about the procedures in canceling my sealing, but was told I would have to wait at least a year, but it could take 5, 10 or 20 years before my sealing is canceled because we have kids involved.
Now, my ex-wife is trying to get sealed to her new husband in January, yet as of today, I have received no paperwork from the church about canceling my temple sealing. I would like to be sealed to my wife, but I'm not in a rush to do it faster than the church or First Presidency sees fit. I know it will work out in the Lord's time.
But here's my questions:
#1 - It's not possible for my sealing to be canceled without me filling out paperwork or being involved in the paperwork, is it?
#2 - I assume that it will take quite awhile to get the sealings sorted out and canceled. But it's not possible for a situation as complex as mine to get sorted out that quick, is it?
#3 - My ex-wife is going to accuse me of abuse (physical and mental). Those allegations aren't true, but does the validity of accusations matter when canceling a sealing? Or would I face any repercussions with the church because of her allegations?
Thanks. I haven't gone through this before and I just don't understand how it all works...