I don't see where anything I said was in conflict with the scriptures you quoted. I've left it in God's hands to decide what becomes of him for forgiveness, I've moved on. Not looking someone in the eye and saying "I forgive you" doesn't mean you haven't gone through the process of leaving it up to God. Isn't that what people are talking about when they say to just let something "blow over"?
From my perspective lack of forgiveness is evidenced through hurt, anger, resentment, pain, etc. When you think of that person or event you start to feel all those initial reaction emotions over again as if it just happened. An inability to move on in life, being stuck at that event. You can forgive and move on leaving it to God without ever talking to that person.
In my situation he made it very clear he didn't want or need my forgiveness, he was comfortable with is decision. I see no need to say the words to him. He has what he wanted, it's in God's hands. If I am required to say the words to him then I will explain why he hurt me so much, why what he did was far worse than he will ever comprehend. I spent a very long time praying and writing letters that I never sent explaining things to him. I spent a lot of time pondering what and how to get over the situation. Some will say that confrontation is the only way. But that situation would cause more hurt and harm than letting it go and moving on. How is it forgiveness to reopen old wounds and potentially create more? He's content and I eventually found peace with it as well. The solution I found peace with was to leave it to God and move on, no confrontation needed. I don't see anything lacking in the principle of forgiveness there.
The reason I brought the situation up with the op is I figured he might find it helpful to know what it would have taken for me to be ok fairly soon after my similar situation. Don't give a fake apology, don't insist it's no big deal. Seek to understand, be genuine, and be willing to move on (even if the other person never says "I forgive you"). If he is losing sleep after it seems the father has moved on then maybe the bigger issue is self forgiveness?
Good reminder there Gwen. I believe this threat happened for a good reason. So far, I've cried tears of pain and joy for my mistake and suffering of cutting another's hair brought me to confession and repentance in Jesus Name unto God in my walks and private places where I can kneel down and give a sincere pleading to Jehovah God for mercy and a possible forgiveness from the son-in-law
In fact, I've had two days off from my job to take these long and beautiful blessed walks with God and discover what The Good Lord's will is from moment to moment and wait on God's promises to unfold.
More will be required of me and I'm staying on top of this in order to allow God have His way with all involved in this time of trouble and await for a time of peace to return and hopefully a time for the son-in-law to be blessed with God's love and mercy and forgiveness of another's sin. I just hope and pray the son-in-law doesn't hate me because I'm not the example and role model he desires for his son when my wife and I baby-sit his son the next time? I've been homeless before and have packed up and left my wife's house many times before for God's sake and will to be done and I also will stay at a shelter down the road and in the future for safety and rest from unnecessary tauntings from my wife's children which to this day conspire to be rid of me. I believe in God's rescues, delieverances, and quickness of His spirit to defend me if needed to bring about His restored peace into the spirits of others here on earth. I love re-reading book of Jacob chapter 3 verse 1 in the Book of Mormon.
Edited by ldsf, 09 June 2011 - 04:50 AM.