A little background. My brother who stole, we'll call him Ben, is 15 years old. For the last 10 years they've been living in Oregon. While there my parents went on SS disability, had $50 rent, became inactive in church, and take a LOT of pain killers for their different ailments, basically they laid in bed for the last 10 years. There wasn't much discipline. My brother while in Oregon got suspended twice for having pot or a pot pipe on him. I knew he was selling our parents pills to get money for pot.
Then about 6 months ago they moved down to California where I live. My brother broke his leg and so had to be homeschooled for 6 months. During this time he got caught with more pipes, started taking my parents pills (probably because he didn't have a pot supplier). At one point he took a whole bottle of my moms pills, and the whole time kept up the facade of 'Don't worry mom, you'll find them, I know you will!" I found the pills while he was at my house and was packing up for a trip I was talking him and my sister on. The consequences for this was he was 'grounded'. By grounded I mean he just stayed at home, playing video games, going on the computer and watching porn on his ipod touch (mom and dad say it's bad but normal, oh well nothing we can do....)
So, we've gone from smoking pot, to stealing pills, to taking pills and stealing a lot of them. School just started and by the second day he stole my money and our 18 y/0 old brothers wallet so he could buy more pot. My dad found the hidden money, and after about a week he's admitted he did it.
SO MY QUESTION. As his sister is there anything I can do? I thought about calling the police and having him go to juvie for a while, but I'm worried that he'll just meet more punks and get bigger badder ideas. My parents are grounding him....for a week. With internet/ipod/video games. I'm requesting a written apology and he can't come to my house until I decide he's stopped stealing. I love having him come over here. I like hanging out with him. My kids adore their uncle. But, every time he is caught, he never fesses up voluntarily and says what you want to hear and does whatever he wants anyways.
I feel like this is a breaking point. I feel like the lesson he's learning is that he can basically get away with things if he is just a little sneakier. What can I do as a sister?
Edited by Blocky, 31 August 2011 - 08:34 PM.