I'm of a different mindset. Our house teaches abstinence as the policy. If my children decide to not follow that policy (and yes, we have very open dialogue in our house), then it's up to them to deal with each and every consequence including birth control. They're 8 and 10 right now and they already know quite a bit about the consequences. They know where my husband and I stand on the matter. We will stand firm on our principles but be there to hold their hand while they suffer the consequences if it comes to that. And like Gwen said - this is not just pregnancy, etc. It includes the emotional and spiritual consequences first and foremost. Hate the sin, love the sinner.
It's the same as drugs, alcohol, cigarettes... They know the consequences. They deal with it themselves. I'll even go so far as to kick them out of the house if it starts to affect the spirit in our home. And if they break the law, I won't stop the cops from sending them to juvie hall. We have our rules. They know what it is. I'm not going to go buy them their cigarettes because they got themselves hooked on it. But yes, I'll pay for the rehab if they decide to come back to the fold. And yes, I've talked to the kids - ages 8 and 10 - about this already, including the horrors of juvie hall.
Perhaps the best part of agency is that we can disagree, and sometimes learn from each other. I can respect where you are coming from Anatess.
I am trying to understand, and want to see if I am getting what you are saying? So for you, if your daughter or son decided to have sex, you expect them to be the responsible part to find BC for themselves.
If they did this and you discovered it, how would you react?
If they came to you to ask for help in accomplishing this, how would you react?
Thank you for a civil discussion on a difficult and emotionally charged subject.