At the last stake SA event, the only women there that weren't my mother's age were the ones old enough to be her mother. There was one other guy there about 40, and it was his first (and potentially last) time at one of those too, since he'd also driven quite a ways for what amounted to just another potluck and a bit of music. For myself, I know I'm not looking forward to burning $30 worth of gas to go to the next one, (I'm the ward SA rep, so I'm stuck with it anyway) and a couple of other mid singles in my ward told me they only didn't warn me off of it because they wanted somebody to go and see if it still looked like a night out at the nursing home instead of a chance to find a worthy mate. This has turned them off to the Church singles events so much that even attempts to put together a mid singles event are pretty much doomed.
On some of the LDS singles boards, I've heard the same type of comments; that even when someone did find a few people their age at a SA event, they all felt so out of place among the mostly-over-60 crowd that they didn't keep going to events. This seems really counterproductive, since most of the mid crowd still has a few childbearing years left, and for the most part seems to be very motivated to marry (or remarry) while that's still the case. While some find and convert a spouse from outside the Church, it seems equally likely that someone who can't find a mate within the Church will marry outside, especially given the biological time constraints, and either fall away, or struggle with being "unequally yoked."
Edited by NightSG, 24 January 2013 - 10:59 PM.