Stop posting about your kids on FB! Nobody cares.

[Bini]

By now I'm guessing some of you have heard about the mother that received a harsh letter from friends telling her to stop posting updates on her little girl because no one cares and it's excessive. I was too lazy to link the story but it went viral and would be easy to Google. So my question is this: do you tire of seeing parents post about their kids? If yes, even to the slightest degree, what is it that bothers you?

 

 

As I'm sure others have done the same for me, I've learned how to Turn Off Notifications and to Unfollow, so I don't have to keep seeing the same crap cascade down my newsfeed without unfriending them. Things are much simpler this way. If I hadn't learnt how to do this, my biggest gripe and frustration regarding unwanted updates would be friends promoting companies, like It Works body wraps. I do have friends that post every little thing their child does, sometimes minutes apart updates, but they've never bothered me. My favourite posts are actually those posted by the daddies (classmates I'd gone to school with as far back as primary school) who are so proud of being daddies and sharing special moments with their kids. I see and hear too many negatives about daddies that it's awesome to see the very opposite of that.

[Leah]

If the so-called friends don't want to read more than x number of posts on someone or something, then how about they just don't read them? Is someone holding a gun to their heads?

BIni, your suggestion is good. I have a brother who posts tons of music reviews to FB. Instead of having so much pop up in my feed, I don't follow him, I just pop in and read what I want.

So that's an easy enough solution. Or.....just don't read everything that pops up on your feed!

It reminds me of the people I see posting truly nasty things on FB feeds like the Duggar family's. If you don't want to read about them....well....just don't.

Easy-Peasy.

[char713]

I am grateful for the ability to unfollow for this reason exactly. For anyone who posts excessively on a single subject, actually. There are so many "venues" for online discussion and sharing. Personally if I plan on writing something longer than five lines I save it for a blog post. And if I have more than five photos to share of anything other than maybe a wedding, those are also shared somewhere more private and with a more selective audience. But still, I would never go after someone or post a public letter attacking them for their online activity. 

[Guest]

Here ya go.

[Guest]

This is what you call... social media bullying. It has nothing to do with the girls being fed up with Addy's updates. It has everything to do with making Jade feel terrible about herself. Glad to see it didn't work and the bullies are just gonna have to find other ways to get their mission accomplished. Idiots will be idiots, what can I say.

[NeuroTypical]

I post on facebook maybe 1-5 times a month.  The kid-related posts are pretty much always my most-liked.  Yeah, I bet that would change if I started doing it daily.

 

"I've learned how to Turn Off Notifications and to Unfollow, so I don't have to keep seeing the same crap cascade down my newsfeed without unfriending them."

 

Yep - that's really all it takes.  Really nothing else to see here, other than watching people who can't figure out how to use Facebook getting all up in arms about the wrong thing.

 

I have a couple of FB buddies that I specifically don't follow, because they just never stop posting and I get sick of it.  Before I learned how to do that, I did unfriend one person who was nonstop dumb stuff, day after day.  Now I am friends with 4-5 nonstop goofy posters, but I'm not burdened with reading their stuff on my wall.

Edited April 16, 2015 by NeuroTypical

[David13]

I don't "doo" fb so ...

But, I have noticed a trend in recent years for parents to be overly obsessed with their kids. 

They are adults (the parents).  Yet their whole life seems to be consumed by every little thing their kid does.

And the real bad one as I see ... "I'm best friends with my kids".  

Wrong.  You are supposed to be parents.  You are supposed to be leaders, teachers, correctors.  Not go along sycophants.

When the kids do something wrong, you are not supposed to bend over backwards with every little excuse for them.

That's where it goes wrong as I see it.

Parents not being adult parents.  No discipline.

Now.  I do not think this may apply to many on this forum or in the LDS church.  But in general society, here in Los Angeles at least, I have definitely seen way too much of it for way too many years, and seen the outcome of it.  Bad.

dc

[Just_A_Guy]

I guess my thought is--I "follow" friends because I like them and want to know what's going on in their lives.  I think it's unfortunate when I have to unfollow someone who spams me with multiple mundane posts, and then miss out on the really important stuff that I DO want to know about because I've already unfollowed them.

 

In this case, what the letter-writer did was bullying.  But I'm going to respectfully suggest that unless one's kids are doing something that is objectively entertaining or funny (sufficiently so to appeal to people who don't even know the kid)--one to two Facebook kid-posts per week is pah-lenty.

[Guest]

There's "Cutipie and I had chicken nuggets for lunch. Cutiepie and I are going to the park! Cutiepie is taking a bath. Cutiepie is doing a puzzle. . ." all in one day. That can get annoying, but I'd never be such a jerk to call someone on it. 

 

I like hearing what people are up to, in doses. If I don't like it, I'm grown up enough to ignore it.

[Guest MormonGator]

I think the letter writer was a creep. It's the moms Facebook and if she wanted to post videos of nothing but her cats it's her Facebook. 

 

Seriously, if Facebook bothers you that much, don't go on it-and I love Facebook. The difference is I don't complain all the time on mine. 

 

As an adult you really should have the ability to ignore it and not act like a baby. 

Edited April 16, 2015 by MormonGator

[skalenfehl]

If I see something or someone too  many times in one session, I've spent too much time of Facebook. 

[Bini]

The weird thing for me is, I was that girl that NEVER wanted kids, especially birthing them. I hated being around other people's kids and never dreamed that I would ever get pregnant and have my own kids. How things have changed for me. I have a 3-year old and now expecting baby #2. I dunno, it just doesn't bother me when others post about their kids, excessively or lacking - it just doesn't.

 

If I recall correctly, the mother who received the letter is a new mother, I think her daughter was 6 months or something? Naturally she's an excited new mum wanting to share all the exciting milestones of "baby's first day at the park" or "baby laughing for the first time". I think it's a bit harsh to be hating on that, specifically, but could understand the annoyance for people without kids or people with lots of kids that just don't wanna hear about MORE kids. The Unfollow feature, though, it's handy  

[Palerider]

I post things on Facebook ... But I don't post my life on there. Sometimes I will post something about my life but rarely. I have a relative that posts on Facebook and the things they post bug me. Such as ... Today is my birthday but Facebook never acknowledged it. No one has wished me happy birthday. ......... Gggggrrrrrrrr.....really....get over it.

[pam]

It doesn't bother me a bit.  People use facebook for many different reasons.  Many times they are far from family members and post things to keep them up to date.   There is a thing called a scroll button and I use it.

 

There are a few exceptions where I've unfollowed someone just so I don't have to see every single little meme that comes across the internet but other than that...I enjoy seeing people's pictures and knowing what is going on with them.

[Leah]

It doesn't bother me a bit.  People use facebook for many different reasons.  Many times they are far from family members and post things to keep them up to date.   There is a thing called a scroll button and I use it.

 

There are a few exceptions where I've unfollowed someone just so I don't have to see every single little meme that comes across the internet but other than that...I enjoy seeing people's pictures and knowing what is going on with them.

I think you made a good point.

 

It's a different age.  Instead of (or maybe in addition to) filling photo albums, a lot of people post photos to FaceBook.  And a lot of times it is to do exactly what you said, keep family members up to date.  You have everything all in one accessible place, for those who want it.  More efficient than sending out emails.  Doesn't clutter people's inboxes.  Friends and family can make the choice to look or not look, read or not read.  I know I have certainly been able to keep more up-to-date and see more pictures from friends and families than I would have otherwise.

 

It's just so simple. Look at what you want to, scroll past the rest.

[Palerider]

It doesn't bother me a bit.  People use facebook for many different reasons.  Many times they are far from family members and post things to keep them up to date.   There is a thing called a scroll button and I use it.

 

There are a few exceptions where I've unfollowed someone just so I don't have to see every single little meme that comes across the internet but other than that...I enjoy seeing people's pictures and knowing what is going on with them.

Now the truth comes out !!?

[davidstarfall]

As I'm sure others have done the same for me, I've learned how to Turn Off Notifications and to Unfollow, so I don't have to keep seeing the same crap cascade down my newsfeed without unfriending them. 

This

[davidstarfall]

 *oops.. posted twice*

Edited April 17, 2015 by davidstarfall

[Backroads]

The weird thing for me is, I was that girl that NEVER wanted kids, especially birthing them. I hated being around other people's kids and never dreamed that I would ever get pregnant and have my own kids. How things have changed for me. I have a 3-year old and now expecting baby #2. I dunno, it just doesn't bother me when others post about their kids, excessively or lacking - it just doesn't.

 

If I recall correctly, the mother who received the letter is a new mother, I think her daughter was 6 months or something? Naturally she's an excited new mum wanting to share all the exciting milestones of "baby's first day at the park" or "baby laughing for the first time". I think it's a bit harsh to be hating on that, specifically, but could understand the annoyance for people without kids or people with lots of kids that just don't wanna hear about MORE kids. The Unfollow feature, though, it's handy

I agree with this. I really don't mind people posting pictures of their kids even in excess.

Then again, I tend to tune out what I don't want to see as I browse my newsfeed. The only stuff that gets to me are excessive political posts.

[NeuroTypical]

If we're looking for something or someone to be mad at, we could all be mad at Facebook.  After all, its their job to make it easy and commonsense to figure out how to get more content you want, and less content you don't.

[Palerider]

If we're looking for something or someone to be mad at, we could all be mad at Facebook.  After all, its their job to make it easy and commonsense to figure out how to get more content you want, and less content you don't.

What would we all do without Facebook ??

[classylady]

I love Facebook.  It keeps me informed with my family and friends.  I like the photos.  I have learned to use the unfollow button for those who post too many political posts--both right and left wingers.  Also, I have unfollowed a good high school friend who would post about 10 x a day about her favorite Christian band.  Ugh.  Got tired of it.  I'll have to go back and take a look to see if she is still sharing so many posts about them.  If she's calmed down somewhat, I'll refollow her.

[Palerider]

I love Facebook.  It keeps me informed with my family and friends.  I like the photos.  I have learned to use the unfollow button for those who post too many political posts--both right and left wingers.  Also, I have unfollowed a good high school friend who would post about 10 x a day about her favorite Christian band.  Ugh.  Got tired of it.  I'll have to go back and take a look to see if she is still sharing so many posts about them.  If she's calmed down somewhat, I'll refollow her.

I'm gonna tell .... I'm gonna tell. ....of course I am teasing.

[Bini]

I usually unfollow It Works and such. I do political posts too because I'm Blue and everyone on my FB is Red, except, for 5 of us (including myself lol).

[EarlJibbs]

I wish Wish WISH that people would actually post more about their families or real life and LESS about funny cat videos, political or news links etc... 

 

That is what drives me nuts. I removed someone a few weeks ago for posting WWE links 5 times a day. Grrrrr. 

 

I love seeing and reading about peoples lives. However, I don't have anyone on FB that I am not interested in, so it's easy.