jolee65

Whos telling who what to do, your a mess clean up your post so a person can figure out what your trying to say.

And you know about me and my daughter do you, or do you assume you know, its the latter trust me. I just hope your cup runith over with compassion when talking with you kids sister cuz it sure isnt here.

Gosh I agree it started out as a mom looking for other parents to tell there stories of letting go and darn if it didnt turn into a huge finger pointing arugment.

frankly I think this has been a good example of what not to be, I dont recall ever pulling out the claws on anyone when I visit a thread. but mine seem to attract not all but some of the most confrontational people on this site ,it shows how they interact with people in there everyday life and thats sad.

Im sorry to say hes shown his colors before, I wasnt surprised ceeboos_boss.

Boy another great example of peace and love, lol what a joke.

And you are the police of all people good or bad , and look at the way you speak to people stay off my post from now on please. your starting to look like a stalker.

Elphaba, You give yourself to much credit, but you do appear to be one of the biggest haters here.... its not really a Christian site when people attack one another, im not claiming to be always Christ like but im not going to jump on the ban wagon when others want to hate on a person for asking a question. Im the last to act as a victim I simply agreed with another on there opinion. But hate breeds haters and im looking to improve not decrease my life skills.

You said it sister, support is what im looking for theres alot of parents on here and im new at this becoming a (empty nester) letting go is hard and there are some real haters on here thats why i dont log on that much anymore and its not whats said to me but others as well.

Thats why he wrote me privately and said he was sorry for taking it and making it personal. and he did take it personal.

LOL,.you got it. Well the black mail part im thinking and can kinda see is, if i dont get my way im gone, until you come to your sences then i"ll come home eat, sleep, buy clothes, use computer all day, and i might let you talk to me by day 2. lol I did tell her she needs to think more about if its worth every thing shes got her home to up and leave is not smart. I called her a dive bomber boy when you go down you go down in flames ......lol

You just hit the nail on the head, thats was exactly what she started saying to me this morning about how she doesnt looks for trouble and that she knows how to avoid bad company or unwanted company and shes never said that and i guess thats what I was waiting for, she needed to clue in to what my fears are and that tells me she can feel out a situation and see whats happening with some else be it good or bad. Shes very bright but was always kind of clueless to her surroundings and that has always worried me, Im a people watcher, I watch before I engage my best friend engages before she knows her surroundings. and its not that my way is best but its best for me, but I have to admit she always got upset because she missed half of the drama, lol.

she comes and gos when ever and gone every weekend, hardly smothering we planned on doing the same with her that we did with our oldest we dont say a word about anything she does at all. but shes going, i talked with her this morning she did say some things that shes never said and that was what I needed to hear and I told her I needed to hear that and I asked if her and KT didnt mind sittings down with dad and I to explain there plans and any information they have gathered I would like to see what they plan on doing. I told her I understand that we hold on to tight and we have a hard time letting go but to be understanding of her parents that love her very much and we are experiencing something for the first time too, and thats how to be without our children and not to hold on to the last one so tightly.

I forgot to add something she is a state winner for the DECA program its a marketing program thats nation wide she won state and was supposed to go to the nationals in California for 6 days disney and sea world then national development conference, she isnt going because she doesnt have any of her friends going lol. Oh sure that has something to do with it but its not like she isnt gone every weekend and vacations here vacation there, she gos its with three girls alone that hits me the wrong way and with these two particular girls.

usually im alone with this kind of thing but my husband agrees, she did have her first drinking experience and it was with one of the girls KT, the other jamie with not attract the right attention and that has been one of issues. But I dont have a choice she doesnt have the money to go and I dont have it to give at the last minute.