Solsalia

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  1. I just had a discussion with my Father about it. He has a lot of scripture knowledge and is a temple worker. He said it is better to end the conversation as people like this will not be opened to hearing what I have to say. The most important thing is to keep contention out which this person seems to keep trying to stir. My Father said I am waisting my thoughts and time on this which he is right. Thanks for your info and your thoughts are right.
  2. I had someone ask me this question. My scripture knowledge is very limited. Here is the question.
  3. BTW, how are things going now? I hope all is well.
  4. In my struggles with my marriage I have thought about the grass on the other side. Once the word Divorce came up your thoughts lean towards that more but then reality smacks me and I realize what kind of problems will I face with another man? Will he be able to do what my husband can do? He can fix most anything he puts his mind and hands too. Very mechanical. If I want something changed or done in the house he can most likely do it. Very handy. If I get upset and want to fight he won't do it. He has never called me a name. However sometimes he doesn't come home till 2am after drinking at a friends house or the bar. He smokes. He doesn't believe in the church. I take my kids to church alone. When I get upset I have to sit back and be the bigger person to make it right. After I have my blow up I calm down and I talk to him and turn the other cheek. I apologize for loosing my temper and explain why I was hurt or upset. When I try really hard to be kind and make him feel loved we do a lot better and I'm actually happier. You have o look inside and think what would Jesus have me do? Remember in primary. This marriage is between you and your husband and God. Only the 3 of you can decide what is best. Taking a quote out of the bible does not heed to the whole bible. My husband now does not eat pork because of a verse... yet when you read the whole Bible and study we realize that Jesus has fulfilled the Moses law but he has not seen that or chooses not too. Yet he still smokes and drinks... very confusing but that is what he believes. Remember even two people of the same religion believe different things. You were brought up by two complete seperate families. Now you have made a new one. I know he needs to work with you also to make it work. Make sure your not being to stubborn to not work with him too. I hope you may be able to find common ground again. Do you still date each other? That is very important. Just because you are married doesn't mean that the dating has stopped. Do the things you did that made you want to marry him. He may see it. Do the small things and swallow the pride of still being mad. It's not worth it. It's hard but you will feel better after.
  5. You are also correct, I guess my example is just a beggining. Also you can't change free choices too. No matter how well you bring them up there will always be their choice eventually. I too have little ones and it scares me the choices they will probably make. Don't even want to think about it!
  6. I am not patient or dedicated enough to homeschool. I would love to do it as the kids are exposed to a lot of things that I do not allow in my home but honestly I know how I am. Maybe someday but for now school.
  7. Just read your update, so reposting Please if you can for your youngers do more family times, create memories. Be happy at home. Allow only uplifting things to be in your home, including TV. If your watching something that invites the spirit or satan in your home. My dad, love the man, good LDS man, but cannot get rid of the Sci Fi addiction. He spends a lot of time on the computer instead of with the grandkids and us when we visit. We finally got rid of the tv, missed it at first but glad it's gone. Other things will occupy your time, take you away from your kids. I think the most important thing you can do is make memories with them. Make sure to laugh a lot and notice the small things. The video games are going to tear them away. They are a waste of time and don't involve family in it.