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  1. After I drop my son at the MTC in Provo I'm heading off to Hong Kong for a little solo vacation. Does anyone have any recommendations? I plan to do some temple work at the temple and a lot of sight seeing. Need help for the 6 days I'm there!
  2. You know, I dated at lot in High School, but when I entered college, I stopped. School was just to much! So, for 4 years I went to school (during the Viet Nam war) without ever dating. Went to alot of YSA stuff (remember M-men and gleaners!). So, the war ends, the draft is over, I go on a mission (at 23!). I come home at 25 and decide to go for a Masters. Again, back to school and no dating. Finally, I decide to go to (I think) Education Days at BYU. At BYU, I meet a sister who served in the same mission as I did. We decide to go to the temple the next day where I asked her to marry me, and she said yes. So it is possible to get married without ever having a "date". We did get married 5 months later. I lived in Houston, she lived in Mesa, AZ, and we saw each other 2 times. So.....just put the insecurities aside, forget the failure in high school (irrelevant anyway), and just relax. I found it was easier to go with a group, and then after getting friendly in a group way, then ask for a date. Good luck, and just stop being a wimp.
  3. Those feelings will NEVER go away. HOWEVER! As you get older they are easier to control. If you keep to the straight (no pun intended) way, live the commandments youmay, in time, find a wonderful man to be your husband. I know that sounds weird now, but as we obey the commandments we are given "special" help. In the pre-mortal existence, some of us were given more difficult challenges to overcome. We chose to come here and we can choose to abide by the commandments. As we do, help WILL come. As you move down the road of life, beware of Satan telling you that you can't change, that its hopeless, because it isn't hopeless. If you believe in Christ, believe in the gospel, and live the commandments, it may be tough, but you will make it through!
  4. You must come up with new ones. Heads up: if you are already registered on The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints for stake and ward access, use the same log in and username. There will then be easier for you when they combine the log in and attach both to your member file. This should be happening in the next few months.
  5. You will need your member number (from your temple recommend or from ward clerk) and your confirmation date. When you have those log onto http://new.familysearch.org and register. When you have registered your opening screen will allow you to view a short video for an overview of the new system. Don't be surprised if you name is not connected to parents and etc. This pedigree is based on past temple records and membership records. If all you see is your name then start adding information. Make sure the information is correct because its hard to change. Good hunting!
  6. Carrie42, Have you tried logging on the site yet? new.familysearch.org without the www. You will need your member number and confirmation date from the ward clerk, unless you remember. When you get on, you may find gazillions on names attached to your pedigree chart, however, if you are a convert, you may not see anything, just your name floating out there. If you have a pedigree already showing, then you need to start verifying and exploring. However, if you don't, then that means no one has worked on your family, your a convert, or the names are in the system and you just need to connect them together. With me, since I've done genealogy for the last 40 years, since I joined the Church and have sent many names to the temple my pedigree chart was pretty well filled out, but after you get back aways (mid 1800's) many other people have the same ancestors, and you get things that are a little messed up. My advice, is to start small. See what's on new.familysearch.org and see if your Ward Family History Consultant can help you. If they can't, go to the stake and see if the stake consultants are available. Chances are, there are many people working on their genealogy, but do it without the ward members knowing. This is how I do it. Start asking questions, and you will probably find someone in your ward that is working on it. Good Luck.
  7. If you are going through for your own endowments, you will need to make arrangements with the temple. The first time you go through is exceptionally special. If you have a chance. Do a little genealogy and take some family names with you to do.
  8. you know, having read this thread, I wonder about some of the responses. I believe very few people are "born" with a same-sex attraction. However, I do believe that in their earliest childhood, there was something that happened that fixed the brain into thinking it has this problem. Also, For those born Hermaphrodites (sp?) before DNA testing, it is possible that the parents chose the sex without knowledge or regard to their true makeup. After DNA testing was mainstream, most hermaphrodites' parents have the DNA test prior to surgery to remove the secondary genitilia. For those trapped because of early childhood or other experiences that "set" their thought process....you can be a temple recommend holder with all the blessings....but it comes with the price of a celibrate lifestyle. Certainly doable, but difficult. Many people, I believe confuse lust with love, and many seek a father figure, because they lacked that in their lives. But, there a many, many reasons. We should not judge, but only help. My business partner has a nephew that after a mission, decided to "turn" gay. Instead of working within the covenants that he made in the temple...he blithly threw them away, because he was lonely and girls just didn't have what it takes. So, he lives with his boyfriend, inactive, and feeling the pangs of sin, but unwilling to do anything about it. It is a sad tale for many, many members of the Church. But, if you have it, then you have to decide if you are going to follow God or not. I do not believe that God cursed people with this affliction. But do believe that something in their early lives caused the mental thinking we call "homosexuality".
  9. Hi susieSA! I think you will find, if you came from Pioneer Stock or early England converts, most of the stuff if done, or has already been reserved by those who got the system earlier. However, that being said, there is an immense amount of work to be done with the brothers and sisters and their children and their children from the direct line. In fact that is what we are supposed to do now. If your direct line has been work to death, then its time to concentrate on the small limbs and twigs that sprout from the direct line. If the source is church temple records then usually that temple work was done some time ago. If you want to find out who is doing stuff. Find a name you want to look at. Go to details (on the left tool bar) on the next screen on the right side you will find contributors. Click on those. That will give you the last known address or email for that person. If you want to reserve the research only for you. You need to apply for "Legacy" of that line. Go to the help button and ask the question or call the help line.
  10. Reminds me when I was baptized 40 years ago! She obviously does not have a clue about the typical organized religion and the true church. As with many I have home taught who were part member families, if you stay faithful, do you church job to the best of your ability and ask the Lord's help, and are fair to your wife and family and don't get "preachy" the gospel will sink in and start the Holy Ghost working on the minds and hearts. One of our good friends was inactive, and while in that state married a good man (professional football player). She (a Calvin Klein runway model) had been living the riotous life. After their first child she decided to become active, almost like joining the Church. Well, fast forward 35 years of marriage, and guess what....the husband was baptized and they have a "celestial" home. You can too.
  11. It is interesting, though, when you think of the scriptures and words of the prophets concerning family history/temple work in this life. I have often wondered if there is an extra help in difficult times if we are doing this work. Otherwise, why not wait until the millenium.
  12. The password and username are a pain in the neck until you finally get consistently on. One of the problems is the constant updating of the hardware in Salt Lake. CarolA99....make sure you have the correct password and user name. Both are CASE SENSITIVE meaning if you first did them using capitols, you have to redo it the exact same way you entered it the first time. Also, if you have changed you email, you basically have to reregister. Tommorrow, or Monday, the Church should have its help line going. Look at the bottom of the screen for "contact us" or something like that. Call the number, the phone tree is all over the world. There are people to help you. I was part of the first beta version, and the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th testing. When all else fails, try reregistering using a spouse or child's member number and confirmation date (from the ward clerk). Use that until you call the help line and talk to a real person!
  13. The movies are one thing. What drives me crazy is the Victoria Secret advertisements on TV! We have a rule that if ladies or men's undies so up on the screen, we immediately change channels. That's also true for some of the other program....we just watch Streisand in concert. Here she is in a slinky black dress with her "girls" showing huge clevage. I'm as red blooded as any other guy....but, that kind of thing just drives the spirit away. And it does make us change the channel or turn it off, even if we really want to watch the show.
  14. It has recently come to mind, that in this forum we talk of many things, especially how to survive the upcoming calaminities of the last days. It has been quoted many times the saints will hardly escape unless they do whatsoever the Lord requires of them, or something like that. So, I have pondered and prayed to understand the things that I should be doing. One morning, I had this thought to go look up a quote in Doctrines of Salvation. I got the book off the shelf, blew copious amount of dust off it, and it fell open to this... Joseph Fielding Smith, in "Doctrines of Salvation" Vol. 2 states, "It matters not what else we have been called to do, or what position we may occupy, or how faithfully in other ways we have labored in the church, none is exempt from this great obligation. It is required of the apostle as well as the humblest elder. Place, or distrinction, or long service in the Church, in the mission field, the states of Zion, or where or how else it may have been, will not entitle one to disregard the salvation of one's dead. Some may feel that if they pay their tithing, attend their regular meetings and other duties, give of their substance to the poor, perchance spend one, two, or more years preaching in the world, that they are absolved from further duty. But the greatest and grandest duty of all is to labor for the dead." DC 128:15 states that...."let me assure you that these principles in relation to the dead and the living that cannot be lightly passed over, as pertaining to our salvation. For their salvation is necessary and essential to our salvation, as Paul says conceerning the fathers-that they without us cannot be made perfect-neither can we without our dead be made perfect." We know, from the sealing ordinance, that one must be sealed for eternity to..."come forth in the morning of the first resurrection, clothed in power"...etc. Joseph Fielding Smith goes on..."From this, then we see that while it is necessary to preach the gospel in the nations of the earth, and to do all other good works in the Church, yet the greatest commandment given us, and made obligatory, is the temple work in our own behalf and in behalf of our dead." So brethren and sisters, it seems to me that in all of our discussions, this is entirely left out. It also seems, that if we do not do it, to the best of our abilities, then we are not doing whatsoever the Lord has commanded us to do. If this is so important, and is obligatory, then if we aren't participating in finding and doing the temple work for our ancestors does that mean we will be under condemnation and won't receive the divine help when things get really black? Are our ancestors, that we have released from the Spirit World through temple work, going to be permitted to help us in difficult times ahead? Well, to finish the story, it affected me greatly. My wife has always been a genealogist, and I'm a slothful part-time one. But this put things in a new focus. I thought then that this forum might give some insight into this also.....
  15. Living in an area in AZ where our ward is two streets wide and 3 blocks long, we have a percentage of about 75% members. What the non-members struggle with can be summed up in this experience one family had: After Christmas, one non-member family said that were given 33 copies of the Book of Mormon, along with sweets. Now, they were touched, most of these people had never given them the time of day. Much less gotten to know them, even a little. I have a very difficult time with missionary work...I am a convert, and recognize the need for everyone to hear the gospel. I've had my share of successes, but to verbally "push" the Church at every non-member, this doesn't seem to work. Members, like me, are struggling financially, hoping to hold on the the house we've been in for 25 years. We are trying to live the commandments, do food storage, do genealogy, go to the temple, attend all our meetings, do scripture reading with our families, family prayer, familyhome evening, put in a garden, in all things be perfect. It makes me tired. When I come home from work, I'm mentally exhausted, and really don't want to talk to others....kinda find my little hole and crawl in. So, if the brethren would lighten up a little, and teach us about what's coming, and help us understand that we can help our neighbors prepare (we are helping some co-workers learn how to pressure can meat, etc) We would have more friendships formed and as a result more people join the Church. I hate it when the Stake President or Bishop stands up and says, ward/stake we must double/triple the NUMBER of baptisms!