My wife has told me she feels no connection towards me. She loves me but does not feel that "connection" that she says married couples should feel.
We've been married 14+ years, have two beautiful daughters, active in church, etc. There is no really big problem with the marriage (infidelity, abuse, drugs) and we both have a good level of mutual respect for each other.
She does not show me any kind of affection unless it's in response to mine and even then it's half-hearted.
We saw a marriage counselor back in the Spring and it helped some, mostly got us through the summer but we're back to the stage where she cries on occasion because of our situation. She's told me she feels lonely and alone in the situation.
I do not think she wants a divorce nor do I think a separation or divorce is imminent but I do think that if we continue on our path that it could happen.
She and I are not sold on our past therapist and are looking for someone new and possibly not a marriage therapist but a personal therapist for my wife but could go either way with a pesonal or marriage counselor. My wife feels the problem is with her and not me. She has said that perhaps she has emotional or psychiatric problems she needs to address. I'm not convinced of that. She says the problem has nothing to do with me...that I'm a kind, loving, good father, husband and good man in general.
I would like to find a therapist that has a foundation in the gospel but not necessarily someone who works for the church or is overly "churchy" in their approach.
We have not spoken with our Bishop about this yet but I plan to speak with him just to give him the heads up and ask for his thoughts.
Does anyone have any advice for me or know of someone in the Salt Lake Valley they would recommend to help my wife either find her love for me, help her reconnect with me or just give her and us good advice and practices for how we can build that connection.
Thanks