MuggleMormon

I've only watched the episodes where the 4th lady was introduced and then when they all moved her to a new house down the street from the "Big House" (no pun intended). I had a hard time watching the show and kept shaking my head. Been a lifelong member of The Church and am kinda surprised how negatively I reacted to the show considering the following: my mom has passed away and my dad has remarried to a lovely, warm, and wonderful lady. My step-mom and my dad were sealed in the temple (it's her first marriage) and my siblings (all lifelong members) are not happy about this one bit. Furious would be a better word. I'm totally ok with it and even think my mom had a hand in finding my dad a new companion here since he's probably going to live for decades more. She always took good care of my dad and would want him to be happy and well taken care of. K. Second reason. I'm divorced from the father of my kids and he has recently remarried and been sealed to his second wife. I had to give permission for them to be sealed as we did not get a dissolution of sealing (everyone agrees that since I'm not remarried in the Temple and am the mother of his children, I still have that right to be "taken care of". I really like my ex's new wife and so do my kids. I think one reason I felt almost "disgusted" by watching the family on Sister Wives is that they all seemed so happy and so much in love, touchy-feely happy, and that they all lived in the same house. Just feels ick to me. I can totally see the reason polygamy was practiced in the early days of the Church and is practiced in other, less "affluent" (for lack of a better word all the sudden) parts of the world. But like one poster before me said -- here in America in these days??? -- I just don't get it. There is no need. This Kody guy has mistresses living in the same house with his wife. That's how I felt while watching, and was just totally turned off. I'd like to watch the show some more to see if my feelings change. Lastly, I have a feeling that the three women who have to share a house will get jealous real quick of the new wife who gets a nice house all to herself. Could be wrong there, but that's my prediction.

I love Dean Martin!!!! OK. To answer the question: I have to blushingly admit it's probably Denis Leary. Louis Black runs a close second. (I work in the oilfield and hear horrible language from co-workers and customers on a daily basis so *shrugs*). I just love stand-up in general. Loved Seinfeld and Mitch Hedburg. I like to watch Jeff Foxworthy and his gang and I liked Rosie O'Donnel when she was first starting out. Ellen Degeneres is great and so is Wanda Sykes and Bret Butler. And oh my I almost forgot Billy Crystal and Robin Williams and Whoopie Goldberg. I could go on and on.

Totally agree with this. In fact, I would implore you NOT to have children if after you're married and older you still feel so strongly about this. Babies deserve to be born into a home and life where they are truly wanted -- and sometimes when that's not the case, the children suffer terribly. And I'm not talking physical neglect or abuse -- I'm talking emotional neglect. I have a dear, dear childhood friend who was born to a woman who loathes children. The husband wanted kids very, very much and so she had two of them. She was horribly distant and even recoiled from them when they were sick. My friend's father died when she was 14 and her little brother was 8 and it was just so painful to watch them deal with their homelife after that. This mother is a well-respected artisan in town and people love her, but I've been in their house when she's said out loud, in front of my friend, "Children suck the life outta you and I can't wait until these idiots are grown and outta my house" while on the phone with a friend while fixing dinner. She said unkind things like that alot. There are times I thought it would be easier on these kids if she was physically abusive because they were so wounded by her words and desperate for attention and love after their dad died, and those scars have lasted a lifetime.. I realize this is an extreme case but it's totally and seriously not fair or healthy for children to be born into a family where they won't be loved. I'm the mother of three and have always wanted kids and love them dearly but have to admit that there were times I've thought I was going totally mental while raising them and might snap at any minute. Motherhood is not for the faint of heart! I hope and pray that someday you'll change your mind because Motherhood is also the most rewarding and fulfilling and cherished moments of my life. My best advice is just to pray and fast about this. If The Lord wants you to be a mother, He will give you that change of heart. Bless you for being smart enough to ask for guidance in this area. And bless you in your future.

Sunduriya Here's the version that I listen to.

Just a thought here . . . your sons might think about either donating their long hair to one of those places like Locks of Love or selling their hair to help pay for their missions. That is, once they are called to go and assuming they are required to cut. Wig and Extension places pay big big bucks for Native American Hair. FWIW, I personally would not donate to Locks of Love because I've heard they don't actually donate much of the donated hair to needy people. They actually sell for profit most of the donated hair. It's just that Locks of Love is such a recognizable name. I can't remember the names of the better donation organizations but they are out there.

This may not be of any help to your particular situation, but I thought I'd throw a few personal observances in here. I'm the adult daughter of a widower who has just this year remarried. We lost my mom two years ago this month, and dad married "S" this summer, so not quite two years had passed. My parents were deeply and madly in love with each other for over 45 years when mom suddenly died, and I for one cannot be happier that my father has found love again. However, my older sister and brother are very antaganistic towards the whole thing, especially since our new-step mom is quite a few years younger than dad. I think it's all hogwash. Both of these people are over 50 and as such are quite capable of making wise decisions with no help from their children. All of us kids are are fully grown with families of our own, and it just irks me to no end that my siblings are giving dad such a hard time about this. I'm sure it helps that I adore my dad's new wife. My brother and his wife had one negative experience with this woman way a few years back and have based everything on that one experience. They won't have dinner with my dad and "S", which is just stupid. They did show up to the wedding reception but not the actual sealing. "S" has never been married and so she and my dad went ahead and got sealed. I'm totally fine with that too. It may also help that I'm divorced and have actual real-world experience with the whole "ability to love more than one person" thing. That seems to be the thing my sister is most upset with. She thinks mom would be horrified that dad was sealed to another woman. I disagree there too, and have actually had confirmation in my hunches that mom helped pair "S" and my dad up together from up in heaven. She took such good care of him and I'm sure she wants him to continue to be taken care of down here. He's got years and years left of living, we're all sure. He'll probably outlive this second wife too! j/k My kids (who are all teens) think that Grandpa's cool for having snagged him a "younger woman"!!! Anyway, you're gonna have some family members give a hard time and some family members will embrace you, if he ever gets his head on straight. I have a feeling that your man is getting flak from his family and that's what is causing his reluctance to take things further. My dad worried about that too, but his friends (two of which are current bishops) and I kept encouraging him not to worry and to just go on and start enjoying life again. Ever since he started dating "S", he looks so youthful and exhuberant. I could not be happier for him. I wish you luck.