As a "curious liberal feminist" you're gonna have all kinds of reasons to get your hackles up in the church setting. Many have come and gone. Too many let those feelings dominate their thinking. You seem like a nice, sincere woman, and due to that God will certainly lead you in the right direction. I'm glad your little twins prevailed and are doing well. I'm new here too, but I throw out the welcome mat to you as well. Actually, what do I know about the things of life that you are going through? I'm just a breezy extrovert that likes to express an opinion. Hope you don't mind.