Utahguy1980

i keep reminding myself I chose this free agency plan... sometimes wonder what I was thinking! lol

Well I'm sitting in the Airport getting ready to fly to New Zealand... going to give this relationship one last shot. Pray that she will have her heart softened. Thanks everyone.

This forum is useless... I didn't come here to find out that my girlfriend was selfish, ignorant, or unchrist like... The problem with the church is several members here that make assumptions and gloat their gospel knowledge. The fact that she hasn't been in the church that long doesn't mean she is selfish it means that she is still learning. Line upon line, precept upon precept. Shame on all of you that have made that assumption.

She says she is wants to feel special. She doesn't want to leave it to chance that my ex and I won't be together... Mostly I think she is afraid of sharing me... Fact is I can hardly handle one woman let alone two! lol

Finrock thank you for your post. My situation is very complicated... I'm American, my girlfriend is English. She just moved to New Zealand for Med School and I'm joining her on Wednesday there. I'm hoping the Bishop and Stake President there can help explain to her what the sealing really is. Ideally I'm hoping another woman perhaps the Relief Society President can help her to understand.

Perhaps instead of people arguing on here about the church handbook you could give me some advice on how to explain to my girlfriend that just because I am sealed to my ex wife does it mean I will end up with her. She has only been active in the church a little over a year and this is hard for her to explain. Perhaps any woman out there that have had to deal with this could help?

Thank you everyone for your input... here is what I have found out with my Stake President and Bishop. The only way a cancellation of sealing can take place is if my ex wife applies for this because she wants to get remarried in the Temple. I spent hours yesterday on the phone with my girlfriend trying to explain the principle of why I'm not allowed to request a cancellation. If there was anyway possible I would ask for it. I spent the majority of yesterday in tears. I love my girlfriend more then I've ever loved anyone. The thought of losing her crushes me but I need her to have faith that the Lord will provide a way. If you could all keep us in your prayers I would appreciate it. I'm at a dead end right now.

Hoping someone can help me here. 9 years ago I was married in the Temple. 4 years later we were divorced. Is it possible for a man to request a cancellation of sealing? My current girlfriend is extremely worried about marrying me while I am still sealed to my ex wife. While I have tried to explain to her that Heavenly Father would never make us be with someone we didn't want to be with she insists she will not marry me in the Temple until she knows for sure that my sealing has been cancelled. Do I have to wait until my ex wife wants to get remarried in the Temple again? This is a major source of contention in my current relationship and any help would be appreciated.