Mday16

Thank you PolarVortex and LiterateParakeet for your kind words. I really appreciate the support and the time you took to respond. That means a lot to me. I told him when he told me he wasn't in love with me anymore that he needed to figure out how to get an annulment or divorce since it was his decision. But in sitting here the past two days, I decided to take control of my life and that I would be the one to file. I think in a way it will help me take back control of my life and help me to come to terms with it so someday i can find that person who will love me forever and I will be a whole person again when that time comes. Thank you again for your support. :)

Hello, This post may be really long but I think it's important to have some background info. I met a boy my senior year of high school, we became friends and started dating. Fast forward 5 years and we decided to get married. He discovered the LDS church in high school, and while he and I were "on a break" I began exploring the church myself and got baptized. It was the first place in a long time that I was accepted for who I am and was around others who believed what I did. We reconnected and began dating again and going to church together, we both lost contact with the church because of work and various other things. He had some demons to battle, but I stood by his side. Almost a year ago we discussed marriage, it was not the first time and, I don't know how to explain it but it felt right. We decided to elope. It was just about us and I was happy with that. We talked about a big ceremony in the future with our friends and family and talked about getting sealed in the temple one day, neither of our families are LDS. His "demons" resurfaced and landed him in jail within 2 weeks of our wedding. He was incarcerated for 9 months, in which I continued to stand by his side despite everyone else's warnings. I truly thought he was my soulmate and believed there was good in him. What kind of person would I be if I abandoned him when he needed love the most? Anyway, he called me everyday, multiple times a day, wrote me letters, told me how much he loved me, and planned our future. He was released and is living in a sober living house, got a good job and has stayed sober. I thought everything was going well. We hung out, he told me he loved me, and said he wanted to start our family. I was so in love and happy that everything finally seemed right. Then he suddenly stopped returning my texts or calls and got a second job keeping him busy literally all day. I let him be thinking maybe he was struggling with his sobriety and needed some time to himself. He stopped saying he loved me when he did answer. I received a text from him asking to meet up, and I knew it was over. He told me he didn't love me anymore. He showed barely any emotion and said he hasn't bern in love with me for months. So now I'm struggling to deal with how you can stop loving someone. I don't understand how that can happen when everything we had felt so right, when I thought he was my soulmate. I wouldn't have married him otherwise. I just don't understand it. I don't get how he could have pretended to be in love with me for months, allowing me to dote on him, treating him as you should treat a husband, and believe he loved me. I don't understand why he would talk about babies and name them and plan what our house would look like and where we would live while he was just pretending to love me. I feel so alone. My family wasn't his biggest fan so they are happy and saying I desere better, but right now them being happy isn't really what I need. I feel that throughout our relationship I lost some of myself, I feel that I looked to him for everything and now I no longer have that so it really scares me. He was my best friend and husband, the person I told all my secrets to and went to for help. I have a hard time making friends and so I don't really have anyone to lean on. That is why I came back to this forum. I needed to return to the place and people that I feel accepted me for me. My work and school schedule make it impossible for me to get Sunday's off right now so I can't attend church. I just wanted to see how to get over someone you thought was the one, but no longer loves you and now I'm 22 and facing a divorce. Thank you Madi

Hello! I have written on here before and found everyone to be so helpful so I wanted to share with everyone that I was baptized on Christmas eve and confirmed Christmas morning. It was a Christmas I will never forget. I received the most amazing gift! I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who answered my questions that I previously posted on here :)

Hello! I'm somewhat new to these forums and will be attending church for the first time this Sunday! I'm going to a YSA Ward so I figured I would say hello on here! :) I'm kinda nervous to go so if anyone would be willing to share their experience that would be great! :)

Wow! Thank you very much! I love hearing stories like yours. They give me hope. Someone Very close to me, just graduated from rehab today actually. That and many other things have happened in my life over the past year, so I really appreciate hearing a story with a happy ending!

Ok! Thank you both! :)

Hello again, the other day when I was on mormon.org and speaking with a missionary, I gave him my contact info do local missionaries could contact me. I had two missed calls from numbers I didn't recognize. Unfortunately they called me the first time while I was in class and the second I was at work. Will they try to contact me again? I don't want them to think I am not interested, I just happened to be busy both times they called. There was no message so I'm not positive it was them. Should I refill out the contact form? Or do you think they will try to contact me again? Thanks.

Thank you! That explained it great! I understand now :)

Thank you all again! So I have a question, what does being baptized mean? I'm I right when thinking that it means you are a member of the church? Is there more to it then that? I'm sure there is...

Ok! Thank you. That definitely makes sense.

Thank you! This was really helpful. I know this may be an odd question (anyone who would like to answer it I would love to hear the feedback.) but what are the best questions for me to ask the missionaries? I'm interested and willing to learn, but like I have said before I just don't know what questions to ask. I would really like to meet with some local missionaries.

Thank you for giving me some insight on your experience. After speaking with them on there what did you do next? I am extremely interested and honestly the more I talk with missionaries and others the more interested I become. So I appreciate your and everyone else's help! :)

Thank you for letting me know that! I apologize if that is considered offensive! I have never been great at spelling :) haha What is a typical service like? I wasn't brought up religious, so I don't know what to expect.

Ok, thank you very much! I will definitely take a look at those. I would love to ask you some questions, but I honestly don't know what to ask. I am very curious but can't verbalize my questions, if that makes any sense.

I was on there talking to a missionary earlier. They were extremely helpful!