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She's having an affair. No if and or buts about it. I would absolutely try to pull her out if it. Marriagebuilders.com man. Lifesaver...marriagesaver. go there often

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but that line is a dead ringer sign that your wife is either having an affair, emotional or sexual, or she is contemplating it. Now I could be wrong but I'd investigate and gather evidence and then confront her once you have proven evidence. Hopefully I am wrong but having experienced the raw end of infidelity twice Ill bet she's having some form of affair or at least contemplating it to utter those words. Its a tell take sign of cheating.

Since when was the atonement fair? Was it fair for Christ to die for you? First rule of life is it isn't fair. Marriage isn't about YOU. Marriage is about YOU AND GOD. I'd rather error on the side of covenant keeping and extend grace towards a wayward spouse. Only after years of unrepentant behavior would divorce even enter my dialogue. People CHANGE. Allow the atonement to work in his life. Help him. That's what marriage is, a PEOPLE GROWING maching invented by God.

Feelings should be INDICATORS, not dictators. Action(LOVE=Verb) precedes feelings. If you want to FEEL love for your husband, ACT LOVINGLY towards your husband which is usually deciphered more readily in the dialect of Respect towards a man. Respect him unconditionally.

I would recommend His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley. It changed by whole outlook on love and marriage. Marriage is a relationship of extraordinary care. Pres. Hinckley said something to the affect that he is convinced that a good marriage has one undelying principle: That it's not so much a matter of romance but an anxious concern/care for the well-being of the other. That's not to say Romance isn't a worthy goal to strive for, but you're missing the mark of what marriage has to offer. My wife says similar things to you. She says she loves me like a brother. THat the 'eros' is missing. Since that time I have done my best to go out and MEET her most important emotional needs. That's love. Meeting NEEDS. Physical needs, emotional needs, spiritual needs. Giving the best of yourself to the other person, and a healthy marriage has that recipriocated by the other spouse and is usually done in a completely different way. If you want the 'SPARK' in your marriage you needs a phD on your husband. Study him, study other males, study out what his likes and dislikes are, what he values, what concerns him, what fears he has. Then UNDERSTAND how HE sees the world and what he needs from you and give that to him. As you 'prime the pump' you will likely see a softening, I have, it's never fast enough, but it happens. It will happen. Keep doing it, and be open and honest and patient with him. I guarantee as you draw nearer to your spouse as well as Christ you will find that 'spark' in your marriage. You can't draw near unto Christ by neglecting your spouses needs that only you can meet in Marriage. And you can't really meet your spouses needs in marriage without being closer to Christ. Work on those two relationships simultaneously and you will see a shimmer of hope, and rather soon. Don't let Satan squash it either.

Totally disagree. As a man, I know physical relations are usually high on the priority list, however, having been through this, the emotional affair is far worse. That's the person I love that's being hurt, not just the tabernacle she's clothed with.