I have a situation somewhat similar to others that have been seen here. Forgive my divulging details that may be more than what you want to know. I love my wife. My reaction to guys looking for greener pastures is that they don't exist. However, the particular situations we deal with can often be difficult. I have been married for about thirteen years. Since our oldest was born over ten years ago I have not had a bedroom to myself and my wife. She has insisted on co-sleeping, letting our kids share our bed. Our youngest is nearly four and she still sleeps in our bed. The reason for this is primarily cultural. My wife is Hispanic. I can't say that this is the root of the problem, but it doesn't help. We do get intimate around once a week but it frequently feels like pulling teeth to get that much. She is never the initiator which would be much appreciated. I have had a porn addiction for 11 years. It started about one year into the marriage. Two of my children have special needs and require a lot of attention. I can handle the frequency of the intimacy but I don't like that it seem like a chore every time. Several years ago the problem was so bad that I had an encounter with a sex worker. My wife knows about my pornography problem but I have not told her about the other thing because it would devastate her. No spouse deserves those kinds of things to happen. I know I have no excuse. We have a good relationship and in my mind there isn't a better mother. I only wish she could balance things out and enjoy being intimate.
