MrPickles

It's all doom and gloom. I don't read to much into it and don't get worked up over it. Maybe I should. All I know is that when I wake up tomorrow morning and put my pants on things won't be to much different for me then than they are today. Regardless of who is president and regardless of what Iran or North Korea decide to do.

I am no expert and if we take what you are saying at face value it would seem that he has shut you out, not sleeping in the same bed raises a red flag for me. Relationships are and should be a two way street. Give and take, not one sided. Even if I give what you say a 50% discount which I am inclined to do since we are only hearing one side of the story I would say that there are some issues in the relationship. The best advice is to seek the help of a trained professional in marital counseling. The fact that you have to ask and have already communicated to him your wants and desires point to this direction. Marital counseling does not mean that you will get divorced but will open an avenue for you and him to communicate in a meaningful manner with a 3rd person directing the conversation and questioning him and you as to why he my think you are being silly or why he is reluctant to show affection. It will also raise the level of seriousness of the conversation.

Since we are picking quotes from the article: "Overall, the Mormon divorce rate appears to be no different from the average American divorce rate. A 1999 study by Barna Research of nearly 4,000 U.S. adults showed that 24% of Mormon marriages end in divorce -- a number statistically equal to the divorce rate among all Americans. " Bottom line you can make statistics say what you want there is a statistic that says only 6% of temple marriages end in divorce but close examination proves that to be a false number. Read what you want in it but being LDS is no guarantee to marital bliss, does it help? do the principles of the gospel make you and your spouse better people? Is there added pressure in the culture to work out your differences before jumping to divorce? the answer to these questions is yes.

Best advice so far.

You will hear about all of the exceptions here, but that is not reality. The reality is that the divorce rate among LDS is the same as everywhere else: DIVORCE AND THE CHURCH OF JESUS CHRIST OF LATTER-DAY SAINTS (MORMONS) http://www.mormonstoday.com/000102/N1Divorce01.shtml dating 5 months and at the age of 18 you are not prepared to enter into marriage or start a family. Get educated, get a real job, be on your own and learn about who you are. You boyfriend should do the same thing and if you still feel the same in 5 years as you do now get married.

While his masturbation is an issue that should be addressed. I agree with FXDB, the more serious issues lie with his communication on FB. Why is he seeking out attention from other women? You put this on the other woman for asking the questions, but it is a 2 way street, he responded and asked her the same questions. His responses were correct he said he would never cheat on you or claims that he said that (of course he deleted the conversation) but the bottom line is that he participated in the conversation, and did not put a stop to it as soon as it crossed the line. I view his masturbation as a separate issue.

I not only wouldn't worry about it I definitely wouldn't bring it up to my boss. Ask your self if you are living the gospel principles to the best of your ability. If the answer is yes then who cares what your boss thinks. Even if you are not who cares, salvation is personal it is your business how seriously you take the gospel or not. If you know in your heart what you believe and practice than don't waste one more minute thinking about a comment made in passing by your boss

Lots of good advise posted here. There are some ideas that you may not have thought of or tried. I would encourage you to put some of these ideas in to practice. This being said there is no shame in asking for a release. Ask yourself if you are really giving 100% to your calling? There is nothing worse then having to go to a job daily that you hate. Most people would tell you to quit or look for another place to work. Do you want your Sundays to be a place you dread going?

I have to agree with Pam, the focus should be on your mission, you are young and feelings run strong at your age. Don't let this get in the way of your ability to serve the Lord. I served a mission and it was the greatest experience of my life. I also had a girlfriend when I left. We broke up a couple months into it. I was not meant to be. She has gone on to have a great life and so have I. Write letters but focus on your goal, hindsight being 20/20 I would/should have broken up with her before my mission.

I think that you need to have an open and honest conversation with your husband. It is likely that he just does not understand what your needs are. You say " I have experienced closeness like this with past boyfriends so I kind of know what it is that I am missing and it's a lot for my heart to handle." when you say "closeness" it is very vague. I am sure that he would like to make you happy and feel close to him. Communication would be the key here.