diane9986

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  1. it all started when he was 16 with his first girl friend.... she got him addicted.
  2. He wont go see our bishop because before we got married his old bishop told him that he would just stop and it was ok. We talk about it all the time. I can't tell you how many sleepless nights i have had over the last year. it is just about every 3 months it is brought up. Yes he will stop for a week or two but he just starts it up all over again.
  3. So I have been married for a year. Just after I got married my husband told me that he had a masturbation issue. No he does not look at Pornography he doesn't have too. When I mentioned talking to the bishop he said that before we got married he talked to his "home ward" bishop who said that he would just get over it it wasn't a big deal. well you can imagine my shock when he told me that, as well as when he was still doing it 6-7 months into our marriage. Then he said he "stopped" but guess what that was a lie too..... Just about every 3-4 months he breaks down and tells me that he has been lying to me and that he hasn't stopped... WELL DUH it's not like I couldn't guess when you stopped being intimate with me. My husband is cheating on me with himself. I don't know what to do or how to handle it! I can't sleep I just feel lied to and alone with all of this! When I talked to my bishop about it he told me that there was nothing he could do because I was not my husband coming in to talk to him. That makes it that much better! This is really effecting my life. I can't sleep, I don't want to eat, I just want to cry and run away. Please if you have gone threw anything like this help me, give me advice, how did you handle it?
  4. When did I know the church was true..... I know it sounds funny but when I was 18 my parents were getting divorced, I had just rolled a car and shattered my skull (i was going 20 mph and hit black ice I now have 7 plates and 28 screws in my head) and it was my last Youth conference. I am from Nauvoo so for youth conference Everyone Comes to my home town but once every 4 years the Nauvoo stake get to leave for youth conference and go down to Far West, Adamondiomin, and Liberty jail. I knew the church was true when I was standing in the RLDS (now community of Christ) Temple. It is open to the public and they give tours..... If you have never seen what it looks like it is kinda like an ice cream cone or a snails shell on the out side and it comes to a point at the top. On the inside they have a dot on the floor that is the exact center of the point. Our tour guide was telling us about there beliefs in the Book of Mormon and asked if anyone had any questions. I asked if when they got married it was for time and all eternity or until death due them part. The woman answered me with "just like every church until death due us part" I asked even if they are married in the temple and she said yes. At that moment I knew the church was true, it had to be. My parents were getting divorced and I still knew that we have the knowledge about life beyond this life. I knew that my grandparents will be together forever and I wanted to never have to worry about finding someone new. Mathew 16-- What so ever is bound on earth shall be bound in heaven what so ever is loosed on earth shall be loosed in heaven. It was so simple at that one moment in time. Families can be together forever threw heavenly fathers plan I always want to be with my own family and the lord has shown me how I can....... Now I have never read the Book of Mormon fully threw (I usually get lost in Mosiah) But because of that one moment when my life was falling apart I know that the church is true. I hope this helps a little bit.
  5. if i lived near you and you could pick me up i would be more than willing to do housework.... yes i am that bored
  6. i have chronic epilepsy and i am on disability so i can't work right now, or drive, and we live in an apartment with no landing so no planing or landscaping or going to a gym.... I have a tread-climber for working out, i am really looking for hobbies i can do at home alone..... And i am so not an introvert.... I hate being alone!!!!!!!!
  7. I am a newly married NO KIDS stay at home housewife.... It is so boring! What is everyone else doing during the day to pass the time? what hobbies do you have? any idea's welcome!!!!!!!!!
  8. Just with this part of your post I would HIGHLY recommend reading the book The 5 love Languages. it may just be that after how ever many years of marriage you stopped speaking in each others love language. Everyone has a different way of feeling love. For him it is most likely different from yours so even though you feel as if you are taking care of things and want to talk threw your issues he is not responding because that is not the way he feels loved by you. This could also play a part in the affair he had with a co-worker because this person is speaking his language for right now. It will also help you to understand how you feel loved by your husband. Another Great book that I would recommend is The Love Diary. It's a 40 day commitment though and If you get it you must do all 40 days. It will change your life and not just with your husband but with everyone around you. I hope this helps and I hope that things get better soon. It may be hard right now but remember Time and All Eternity is a long time so this is just a blink in what will be.
  9. I would say that No the church would not want families to take out loans to pay for a mission. Something that is easy to do and not a lot of money but will help a LOT. If you save ONLY 5$ a day by the end of a year you will have 1825$ do that for 4 years and you will have an entire mission paid for (well almost 7300$) if each one of your family members helped then the missions will be paid for rather quickly without taking out loans. It's also a good idea when you have kids to put away 5$ a day until they turn 18 and can go on a mission or to college if you do that you will have saved 32,000$ that will MORE than pay for a mission and at least one year of college
  10. Hello, I am in my mid twenty's and a stay at home Housewife. We don't have any kids yet (hopefully soon though). I am excited to learn more about the lives of other LDS women. HUGS FOR ALL