When we were dating in college my husband was already clearly overweight. When I would bring it up he would talk about how he was a football player and that when he stopped playing he wouldn't have to maintain his high weight anymore. I do blame myself for being so easily fooled by his excuses. Fast forward 3 years, he has consistently gained more and more weight. I have tried EVERYTHING to help him succeed. I've tried: positive encouragement drill sergeant approach educating being an example making him accountable by the end of the day food charting writing him letters telling him my feelings seeing a doctor (no underlying medical problem) meeting with our bishop gym membership But here is the advice I need: After I have done Everything I can think of nothing is changing. He is destroying himself and I just have to watch. He is doing nothing to reach the potential he has. After looking at the pattern beginning with his grandfather I am terrified of the example he is setting for our son. At his families rate, our son would be 400 pounds by college. He refused to get out and find a job literally until the day I gave birth to our son. I feel is is neglecting his family. I am no longer attracted to him intimately. It is a fact that I take care of every responsibility in our marriage and household. I feel like all he is contributing to our relationship is the fact that he is my best friend, but nothing more. Do I stay with him and miss out on a fulfilling marriage, or do I move on?