Anna_Ross

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  1. I can't go anywhere to think, like I said I don't have friends or family in this country. Okay I have 1 friend but she lives like 20 hours away and I don't drive yet. Things got worse. He said he will take me to the court and take the kids away. (I don't know if I mentioned it) 8 hours ago I found inappropriate messages to another woman. Btw, can he be excommunicated for this? I also found out that he used to wear women's clothes before our marriage. I think this is too much, I can't handle this. I told him - take me to the court and I'll show them all those messages ... We have an appointment with the lawyer on Friday. I want to be separated. It's not a divorce , right? After he set up this appointment he said he needs to go to the hospital because he is suicidal. :/ he is staying there until tomorrow. I'm being exhausted and emotionally drained. Not telling anyone anything because I don't have anyone to talk to. Marriage sucks.
  2. Of corse we did counseling! As a couple. And by myself. He doesn't get it. It gets better for a few days and then goes back to " normal". What I've done? Forgave countless times and I'm still with with him! I know kids are suffering during divorce. Are they not suffering seeing all the fights? I don't want them to grow and think this is okay and do this to their spouses! I'm screaming inside every single day and praying I can get my feelings back but I know i won't be able to do this. Today he told me he is going to take our children away.he will go to the court. And in the same time he loves me and doesn't want to divorce. He didn't raise them. He doesn't know how to feed or dress them. I think its not normal for anyone to go through this and be okay with it. Am I wrong? To let other person hurt you emotionally like this?
  3. He has problems controlling his anger, acts crazy at home, on public when he is mad. It was much much worse when we just got married now it's a little better but still. Our oldest child asked once what's wrong with daddy... I don't want to explaine such things to my 4 year old! It shouldn't be happening. Then, I went through the emotional abuse from his mother. Because of financial situation she had to move in with us several years ago. She also had/ has anger issues (maybe it's family issue?!). I don't want to give much details about that time because it still hurts me to even write about it. But it was 2 horrible years of my life. And I was pregnant with my first child. He (my husband) couldn't stop her. Couldn't tell her - you can't hurt my wife like this. I asked him million times. Nope. He just doesn't get simple things. He doesn't get that you help your wife to get stroller on the bus. And other men have to help me. Once I was very sick and coughing my lungs out and we were in the taxi and driver asked if he can smoke and my husband goes -Sure! He doesn't care about my goals and dreams. You probably noticed how "great" my English is. Lol I'm not from the U.S. I don't have family or friends here. I left everything behind just to be with him, I was so in love!! But now I'm on the edge. Bra, he is going to the psychologist but it doesn't help at all. This is just a tiny little glimpse on what's going on with our "family" right now.
  4. Hi, I'm new here. Question for everyone. Would you stay in loveless marriage? If you'd have kids. Would you stay for your children? I've been doing this for the last 3-4 years and I just can't take this anymore. I love my kids but I'm really suffering in this marriage. Love is gone. My husband slowly destroyed it. We are trying to rebuild it but nothing really works. He keeps screwing up. Day by day. I'm so exhausted emotionally. I want it to be over. He keeps saying he loves me but he refuses to understand and accept that I don't love him anymore. Please don't think I'm a monster. There were whole bunch of events that made me feel this way. He doesn't want to think/talk about divorce. Because he thinks it's not an option (he loves me so why to divorce?!!) I would appreciate any advice.