candy100

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  1. Thanks everyone, these are all great reminders. I guess I am looking for practical applications...although TFP I really needed to hear that at the moment! What I can't figure out is, does my Sunday observance actually mean that I am "more spiritual"? That is a difficult statement to feed yourself in a marriage that you are trying to make ideal. I think I'd rather assume that the other person is just as "spiritual" even if it could potentially not be one hundred percent accurate. If it makes you both happier and more satisfied then why not? But if you could get inside my head, assuming equal spirituality on both sides means I could be wrong, or just crazy with my sabbath day observance, which doesn't sit well with me either. Also, my husband is fully aware of the problem. Vort I really like your suggestions. I think he'd be open to all of those things. The nicest thing is that he tries so hard to please me, and is selfless in what he carries forth on that day. He actually almost never watches sports on that day because he knows it is hard for me to watch them with him (although he will watch football), but me wanting to please him as well just ACHES throughout the day because I know he'd rather be watching a game instead of writing in journals and taking very long walks.... What I don't understand is if we are both equally "spiritual", and we both equally love God, how can we have such differing views about one of God's commandments? I'm pretty black and white, so sometimes this stuff is hard for me to understand. I was hoping there would be a "magic pill" to help us, to help him be happy. If he were happy and loved that day then my Sabbath day would be so delightful. How can I help him be happier on this day? Is there something remotely close to a magic pill for us? To make us suddenly enjoy this day? Jane_Doe I liked your advice, and maybe someday we will get there where we can actually do things on our own, but our philosophy for Sunday is to at least strengthen your family relationships - which means not really being apart for long durations - which means compromise is a necessity, because we at least agree on that: family on Sunday is important. Or should I be ok leaving him for a while? We are probably a couple of mushy newly weds still, so escaping into my own world and him not being hurt in some way is pretty hard for me to imagine.
  2. I need some feedback for a problem. Me and my husband recently got married, and I always knew he had a different idea of how to keep the Sabbath Day Holy, but our compromise was when it came to football season, I would allow football to be watched and not put up a fit. I felt it was a good compromise since he doesn't go shopping, go out to eat, or do anything else majorly wrong on the sabbath day. I myself however, had some very powerful spiritual experiences with the sabbath day, and have enjoyed for a very long time only doing things that would draw me closer to the Lord on that day. That means I wouldn't watch TV, or movies (unless a large group of friends were and it couldn't be avoided), and I'd try to serve and it seriously was the HAPPIEST day of the week. Now we both dread Sundays because he sees Sundays as making him a little stuck. Even though he will outwardly do things I like, inwardly he is bored out of his mind and not happy. As he's not very happy on that day, I am not very happy or excited to worship and praise the Lord all day long as I previously was. How can we take this damper off of our Sundays? I'm about to cave by just not caring about keeping them holy anymore, or just escaping for the day while he does what makes him happy (watch TV and Sports). I feel like he has never seen them as this AMAZING joyful, holy, packed full of the spirit kind of day as I see them. He just sees them as a day you go to church and try to not go out to eat, etc. He's always been a little downcast about Sundays. I don't think it's even the TV and Sports that bother me so much as the fact that he doesn't get the thrill out of the spirit of holiness on that day, and our difference of understanding is what makes it pretty hard. What should I do to make this day easier for us?