I need your help. I came back because I feel this is the only place I can "talk" to someone about my marital problems. In response to a few questions posted in the replies, here are a few of the details I left out before. I don't know if they will really make a difference though. *my husband is already taking anti-depressants. Has been for a couple of years. Maybe he needs to increase his dose, but I know he is dependent on them. *he is always in pain everywhere because of his weight and takes about 1000 ml of advil everyday. He knows it's bad for his liver, but does it anyway. *we have read the 5 love languages and identified each of ours. It hasn't really helped because even though I do try to "speak" his, he only speaks mine after we have a fight. I am not motivated to continue to speak his language and I guess neither is he. *we have been to therapy even though he didn't want to. He said that the therapist and I would team up against him. We stopped going because of the cost, but that really was for the best since we both felt we were not making any progress. *his job needs him and will never let him go because the job he does is very critical to the company. If my husband decided to show up in pajamas I think they would let him, they wouldn't like it, but they wouldn't fire him either. My husband is over 40 and has not matured (I guess, according to previous post replies). He acts like a child that needs to be told what to do. Take a shower, brush your teeth, take out the trash, clean your room, join us for FHE and scriptures. You know that meme where there is a skeleton waiting on the porch for his wife to get off facebook? Well that's me, I'm the skeleton. My husband is always on his phone either with social media or reading a book. I already have 4 children, I want a husband, not another child. Even though I hate telling him what to do, I have to sometimes, and unfortunately sometimes it's in front of the children. My kids have even asked me "why is daddy like that?". And as far as ironing his clothes, I make my other kids (haha, it just came out like that) iron their own clothes. I make my kids fold their laundry. I work full time (I quit in June but went back for my own sanity or insanity, I don't know you tell me). I tell my kids "I'm only washing your clothes if they are brought to the laundry room". I have not done my husband's laundry in a while because he doesn't pick up after himself and his hamper, which is never full because the clothes are all over the floor, is never brought to the laundry room. I am not his mother! When he starts acting like a husband, I will act like a wife. I feel so alone. I went to my bishop. He spoke with my husband and is frequently meeting with him. According to my husband, the bishop keeps telling him he needs to change if he wants to keep me. The bishop pretty much told me that he and the stake president support my decision for divorce, which I know is not normal. The only positive things I can say about my husband is that he landed, much by luck and not by talent, a great job (right place at the right time). He also is very knowledgeable in the gospel, keeps his temple covenants and gives the best talks, lessons and testimonies you will ever hear. The truth is that that is the thing that attracted me to him. And even though I know that any woman with a less active or non member husband would love to have that, I feel/want more. It's like he is Jekyll and Hyde. I don't know what to do. What do I have a right to want and ask for?