VisionOfLehi

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  1. Haha, okay, I'm not RS, but I have one... I had been complaining about being cold at night and for my birthday my ex-gf bought me a fleece blanket. That was pretty romantic for me. A useful gift that I wanted and needed.
  2. Don't know, don't care. The Prophets have spoken for the Lord on this matter.
  3. Wait a minute... Non-LDS people aren't evil? I missed that memo. Musta been sick that day.
  4. I guess each child is different. With me "what the say just goes" never, ever flew. Parents and teachers. If they couldn't give me a good reason, then I wouldn't go for it. I never had to worry about the text thing, or curfew, because I never went out of the house, essentially, or socialized. But if my home became a place filled with unjustified "rules" then you can bet your butt I would've found a different place to spend most of my time, even if it was just walking around the city.
  5. I would say it's not a mistake at all if it had success in raising up seed unto God.
  6. Are we including religions we now refer to as "Mythology?"
  7. Rico, I'm pretty sure we're agreeing... Because I'm not at all talking against someone who established the rules beforehand, laid it out for their children. That's fine by me. I'm am A-OK with the strict lay-down-the-law kind of boundaries you're talking about. Parent's SHOULD be "nosy." They should be in their kid's lives. But they need to be clear about the extent of that. If it's something like "Once a week when you're not home I'm going to go through your room." or "Every month I'm going to read your text messages." The child should be informed. If you have NOT been doing those things, then you have by omission already established a boundary. Teenagers, for one, are pretty smart. You can talk to them less like a child, and more like an adult. And informing them of what you're doing, such as changing the rules and boundaries, is a sign of respect. And while some parenting guides will tell you that you aren't supposed to be your child's friend, but their parent, you still need to have a relationship of mutual respect. "Peppered" as my opinion may be, it's the same one I had before and after the incident. It's why it bugged me so much when they randomly decided to do it.
  8. Excuse me? So, you, intentionally or not, condescend to me but provide nothing to back up the notion that my "young" opinion is inaccurate? Reading your child's every letter/text/IM conversation is not setting boundaries, it's invading them. You don't just out-of-the-blue start doing stuff like that. If you have reason to suspect, or if you have AGREED upon that at first, then fine. But to just start sneaking into your child's life is setting up future trust issues, and probably means you aren't close enough to your child in the first place. People can try to justify it all they want, but if you have to take such extremes then YOU, the parent, probably messed up a long time ago.
  9. And if you don't suspect? That's the question. Is it okay to infiltrate every aspect of your child's life just because? No. It's not okay. I don't even think it's healthy.
  10. Am I the only one who thinks that it wouldn't be so bad if it was allowed again?
  11. How old is she? Do you have any reason to believe what she is texting may not be safe? Is she secretive about it? Do you record her phone calls? Do you read her private diary? Do you stalk her to eavesdrop when she's talking to her friends? If you don't have any reason to suspect she might be doing something dangerous or unsafe, then I would say yes, it's too far. My ex-gf's parents read some of our IM conversation for a short while in a control-assertion attempt gone wrong. That didn't really fly. Caused more strife than anything, and they ended up realizing it was crossing the line.
  12. No. I'm just, in my experience, often times not good at seeming friendly when I mean to. I wasn't bein' gruff. I just think people will want to see results, first. You might want to try calling SS and talking in person or setting up a local appointment, though. You're more likely to get a quick response.
  13. I would suggest that, until you can come back and say you've done something decisive on the matter, you just drop the subject for now and post about other things. P.S. That's my attempt at being friendly.
  14. I know of at least 13 Prophets alive today.
  15. I think that means we have to manage without Spot doing all the work for us