FairChild

I adore her. She is empowering, not shaming, and effectively can teach one how to pull it all together---> providing one chooses to follow through with necessary work.

I hope more than anything else you do, is that you find a kind and experienced counselor because you need some important life and communication skills. I hope you take time to heal and focus yourself in a health and happy manner. It sounds as if you chose someone that wasn't truly available to turn towards and created great pain and hardship for all of those involved. Life's hard enough without us burning our bridges before we cross them. FairChild

- do i just keep sticking this out. I am only 24. I feel like i could still start over. But i also know that this idea is EXTREMLY selfish, and in a way very stupid why do you feel that you are being selfish? Because you think of leaving? Because you feel the need to remove stress or fear of what is going to be the next thing wrong? Because you shouldn't worry about if I? Because...? I don't see any selfishness in being concerned or accountable about the choices you make in your life.

If the first dealership can't help, call another. You never know who is on the other end of the phone and you may get the help you need.

Call the dealership. If he can give the dealer the info he needs from the car, he may be able to get a key made.

I always think the very best Wards and Branches have lots of babies in them. Our Ward certainly does.

I am in the EXETER, NH stake. I live in a small town near the southern tip of Maine. It's a wonderful community in which raise children and do so many other things. I love the people I am with, both in or outside of the church. Anything specific you would like to know about?

I live in Kennebunk. What do you want to know? And we do have some of the most awesome wards I have ever been blessed to be in.

You can't fix anyone but yourself. Could he write down an action plan along with a timeline if possible to show you that he is actively working on his issues? I also suggest having a 3rd party counsel both of you together. I wish you both great luck and joy.

His behavior told you his choice. He knew, he chose. Don't feel guilty. If he had stayed, then none of the rules would have any accountability. You did great!

He has proven it was him, all him and not anything you have done. Allow him to accept the responsibility of it all and let yourself have the best possible life. I don't know if it helps, but I have found that many of the hardships I have survived, in turn, I was able to use what I learned to help someone else. I so hope that wonderful joy and peace guide you throughout your life.

Actually Vort, if you look at the different wheels, you can see how healthy and unhealthy relationships differ. I think you aren't looking at the information as it pertains to relationships as they were meant to be used.

http://www.theduluthmodel.org/pdf/Equality.pdf http://www.theduluthmodel.org/pdf/PowerandControl.pdf http://www.theduluthmodel.org/pdf/Creator.pdf http://www.theduluthmodel.org/pdf/Abuse%20of%20Children.pdf http://www.theduluthmodel.org/pdf/Nuturing%20Children.pdf Something to think about....

Or you could even call Gambler's Anonymous to find out what they would suggest.

Could you lend the money with certain strings attached to it? Such as so many minimum Gambler's Anonymous meetings or that a payment plan be put into place?